Motherhood comes in all shapes and sizes: disabled mom + inclusion
Today we’re going to be featuring a mother named Amy who has a physical disability. Exploring inclusion in all facets, including motherhood, is pertinent to advocacy.
Growing up whenever I was asked what I wanted to be my answer was “a mom.”
You can imagine how uncomfortable people would become when this answer was being given by a little girl in a wheelchair.
I know they were wondering how, if, and when. I spent a lot of my life wondering the same thing. When my husband and I decided to try and get pregnant I wanted submerge myself in everything baby.
I suddenly found that I was left out of every conversation.
Every birth class was for able bodied parents, as well as all the books and podcasts. There was nothing that felt inclusive at all to me. I was told what my birth plan would look like and I got no say in it. For medical purposes I understood where this was necessary, but I dreamed of something different. Every depiction of birth I saw told me an ideal birth was unmedicated and vaginal. I was being put to sleep for a cesarean, which is the total opposite. It wasn’t until after I gave birth to my son that I really decided I wanted to do something about the disconnect that I felt. I became an intersectional birth doula to assist people, specifically disabled people through pregnancy and birth. I’m also writing a book based on my experience as a disabled mother so that other people who are also disabled can feel included in the conversation.